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Friend zoning has a lot of 'negative' connotations. People always take it as a rude and savage thing to do.
Even though it hurts to be put in the friend zone, it's sometimes necessary to be honest. **It's better to be friend zoned than to be led on by someone who has no intention of being with you.**
Being the one to put a person in the friend zone is just as cringe-worthy.
It's never fun to be in that position.
Everyone, doesn't want to hurt anyone. If you're a human with a fully functioning heart, you don't want to hurt anyone.
But since you know you can't force yourself to like someone, it's important to get the point across to that person, that you only see him or her as a friend and nothing more than that. It can be hard to nicely tell someone you only want to be friends with him or her, which is why some people avoid the act of friend zoning all together.
**To help you out, here are some ideas about how to 'friend zone' someone, if you're not that interested:**
1. Give subtle, yet obvious hints
You don't want to be the person who says, "You remind me of my brother." You also really don't want to talk to him or her about another person you have a crush on.
The better thing to do is If he or she gives you a compliment, rather than acting weird about it or forcing yourself to compliment him or her back, just say, "Thank you" instead. This is less savage than saying you're a bit awkward about it.
This way, you aren't giving him or her any wrong ideas or impression, and you're still being as polite and random as you should be.
If the person tries to make a move when you're together, instead of freaking out, start talking about a random subject to divert him or her. While this may seem weird and awkward, it can easily show your lack of interest.
2. Always suggest hanging out with a group
If you genuinely like spending time with this person, but don't want him or her to get the wrong idea, make sure 'other' people are always there. While it's acceptable for friends to have one-on-one hangouts, it would be better to only hang out in groups or your *barkada* and other *tropa.*
To make this happen, you should ask your friends if they could tag along whenever this person invites you to hang out (not like a chaperone though). Not only will this lessen this person's chances, it will also reflect you only see him or her the same way you see your other friends.
**This is a quick way to place someone in the friend zone, and less savage too.**
3. Don't ignore this person, but PLEASE don't give hope too
If he or she tends to text you a lot, don't be that person who stops responding. PLEASE. Even though that seems like a good way to hint you're not interested, it's basically just taking the easy way out and being rude.
Don't be mean. You can still talk to him or her. Just do so without giving him or her the wrong idea.
If he or she tries flirting through text, rather than putting your phone down and walking away, just subtly change the subject by asking a question, to divert the topic.
You can do it in situations when the flirting has become too much.
This will definitely prove to him or her you don't want to return the flirting.
If he or she is always asking you to hang out and is persistent, tell yourself it's time to turn to the last idea on this list.
