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We've all been there — majorly crushing on that chick we're hanging out with, thinking this might actually go somewhere. And the more time we're spending together, the more we realize how much we actually like her: how she talks, how she laughs, that she can chill with us like one of the guys.
And then there's that moment, when we realize that we haven't really made a move yet nor have we made ligaw. Were we waiting for her to go for it? Were we not sure she'd be into it? All of the sudden, she's talking about another dude, and calling us to talk about him.
In this story we're going to address how we can avoid the friend zone, over and over. Here are 6 reasons why she doesn't see you more than a friend:
1. You have rejected her first, by calling her "friend"
When you purposely go into the "friend zone," a girl might immediately put you into the friend-only category because, although she might have initially felt some sort of attraction to you, she now feels that you do not share those feelings and it's hard to switch back after a deep friendship has been formed.
2. She has already moved on from liking you, and you're "one of the friends"
When a guy becomes a "friend I could potentially date" and a "friend who will only ever be a friend." Friendships started out with one of us having more than friendship in mind but things never progressed there. What happens with the timing thing is that once a girl becomes close to a guy, with the "he's one of my best friends" mindset, it's past the point of no return.
3. She isn't just impressed with you
Confidence, concentration and skill in action is very attractive and creates some sexy body language that women are responsive to. This can be anything — although usually not computer/video games.
4. …Or she's just not attracted to you
As a girl, it's always seemed to me that a lot of guys confuse their friend-zoning status for their unattractiveness to the girl in question. The reality is that we do not see you as a potential mate because we are not sexually attracted to you at the moment. It's that simple.
5. You haven't made her feel good about herself
Of course you should be respectful and not treat women as objects, but it is quite possible to do that and act like a man and make a woman feel like she is beautiful and desirable at the same time.
6. You haven't ask for a date, in short, you're torpe
She may enjoy talking to you precisely because she sees you as a respite from all those "actors" who want her attention. You could serve her coffee and small talk for the rest of your life without her ever realizing that you wanted to be in her life alone that you might even be perfect for the part.
