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Just like any other group of people, there are tons of unfair stereotypes about girls out there. From ridiculous stereotypes about how girls act in relationships to super feminine "girly girls," it's hard to escape absurd assumptions about our gender. Even when you type 'kolehiyala' on Facebook search, it's still bad news.
This is also true for college girls – a lot of people think some seriously unfair things about girls in college, and it's time that stopped. I'm sure most of you are aware of this, you feminist "woke" readers, so I don't to have to tell you about the destructive power of stereotypes and why they're bad… but when they're presented as facts and doled out like cautionary tales, it gets exhausting.
You know the struggle. It feels like, in order to avoid these stereotypes, you have to walk around and say that you "aren't like other girls." So, one more time with feeling – nobody is like those girls. "Those girls" are imaginary and based on a weird idea of what college girls do.
Now, brace yourself for some weird and specific sexism that's about to get thrown your way from every which angle, including some you may never expect. A lot of them are jokes, but some are a little problematic, and by problematic I mean rape-y. We've heard all these stereotypes before, but when they're being specifically applied to you and assumed to be true about your life, you kind of just want the world to shut up about it already.
**Not all college experiences are the same because not all colleges are the same and neither are all girls. Drop the mic on anyone who throws this bullshit your way and move on in your college career kicking ass and having the best time.**
**Here are 13 sexist af stereotypes about college girls need to go away, as in RIGHT NOW.**
1. College girls are into sex scandals and experimenting
AKA they hook up with girls as part of some fun phase. Girls can be comfortably queer and hook up with girls. It's not a phase. Even if they wind up marrying men, being attracted to women doesn't magically disappear at graduation. And as for the videos, thy just trusted too much, without them knowing that it can be used against them.
2. They all want to marry a rich and old man na madaling mamatay
For those of you who haven't had an old timey relative make this joke about you going to college yet, it's implying that you're only in college to find a spouse. You made a funny, Grandma, now let me get back to studying for finals.
3. Girls who party a lot don't take school seriously
Some school parties have awesome programs in the field you want to pursue. Parties are also fun! Don't get me wrong, but so is getting some bang for your (tuition) buck. Not because they are always wasted on a Friday night, they'll live a miserable life forevs. #suckit
4. All girls who join the sororities are dumb
Sorority girls who hold a higher position in the organization have killer leadership skills. Sororities aren't just about being pretty, but it's all about philanthropy which can be great for networking (job outside college). They might call these girls a bunch of "dumb biddies doing keg stands" but in reality, they're something.
5. And if you're not a part of the 'cool girls' club' or sorority, this makes you a LOSER
How about… NO?!
6. Being deprived from partying back in college will make you an even worse party animal in the future
It can happen! Freedom from mom and dad can inspire a lot of party behavior, but I've also come into contact with girls from conservative upbringings who quietly sip their soda at parties and behave nicely.
7. Girls who used to go to church, stop serving when they're already in college
This is part of the stereotype that all religious girls are conservative and conservative girls rebel the hardest. There's local organizations on college campuses that make it easier in remote areas to access worship services and active religious groups in most universities. If being religious is important to you, that won't miraculously go away once you start college.
8. Girls try to be sporty 'because they want a guy's attention'
Sports can be a huge part of campus life, and guess what? Girls can be sports fans! Showing up to the tailgate is not a ploy to get a boyfriend or to be Not Like Those Girls. What's more, not every guy likes sports! Also, why are you shaming a girl if she wants to make friends with dudes? Guys are awesome.
9. Pretty girls don't major in math, engineering and science
Because it's harrrrrrd. It can be hard – for some people. Women have low key been pioneers in math and science for years, they've just been discouraged from pursuing these fields because of what? Stereotypes and societal pressure. It's just LAME.
10. Girls who get drunk, automatically wants a hook up
If a girl is too intoxicated to revoke your consent, don't have sex with her. **Look, drinking in college happens, but pretending that all girls behave a certain way when they do is a dangerous thought that could lead to sexual assault.**
11. They're such a b*tch when it comes to expressing themselves on social media
Ugh. Okay…but it's selective and not general.
12. Girls in relationships break up with their high school sweetheart, before they enter college
The stereotype is that happens, so that girls can hook up with anything that moves, which we think is a little slut shame-y statement and gross.
13. Dressing 'sexy' means you're asking for it
THIS IS CODED LANGUAGE FOR F-CKED UP THINGS. You could show up to a party wearing pasties and bikini bottoms and still not be "asking for it" or even NAKED — unless you literally and enthusiastically "ask for it" in which case we'll call it "consent."
